Returning Homeby: Gerald Lee Jordan
date: 1 October 2021 (NZT)
edit: 1 October 2021 (NZT)
Some think of home as a place and when they go back years later, they find that they cannot truly return. I left my hometown for university 36 years ago and when I went back this year to see my mum and stepdad, I realised (not for the first time) that this was not home. What is home? Is it a place? Is it a state of mind? Is it people? Most who want to return home have some idea of what they think it is.
Home as a State of Mind
If home is memories of a place and we return to that place, we will find that people, buildings and other things that are the subject of these memories have changed. This can bring sadness. If we view home as the emotions we fondly remember - being content, being loved, being relaxed, etc - we can create home anywhere. I spent decades looking for home in different countries and finally realised that home was where I made it.
Think about the emotions and comforting things that remind you of home. What are they? For me, home is a peaceful place, where I am able to share love with my family and where I am able to grow mentally and intellectually. I have learned that my meditation space is part of this and I have a bench that I am able to take anywhere - helping to create home wherever I am. Make a list if you need to and then begin to make home where you are.
Gerald Lee Jordan, MBA, MEd, MCouns ❤️